The cancer prone personality
Most of you would have heard of type A and B personalities. The type A is a go getter, hard driving, competitive person and the type B is more easy-going and laid back . But did you know that there is a cancer prone personality – type Ca. Now we know that cancer can affect anyone, but more often than not, the Ca type personality seems to journey more. For me when I first heard about this a couple of years ago it blew my mind. Thinking about it now with all the internal shifts and lessons that I’m going through, and all the time in the world to think about this stuff, it blows my mind even more!! So what is the Ca type personality? What traits do they have?
They are highly conscientious, dutiful, responsible, caring, hard-working, and usually of above average intelligence…. I like this last one….. smile emoticon
They exhibit a strong tendency toward carrying other people's burdens and toward taking on extra obligations, often "worrying for others."
They have a deep-seated need to make others happy, tending to be "people pleasers." Having a great need for approval.
They often have a history of lack of closeness with one or both parents, sometimes, later in life, resulting in lack of closeness with spouse or others who would normally be close.
They harbor long-suppressed toxic emotions, such as anger, resentment and/or hostility. Typically the cancer-susceptible individual internalizes such emotions and has great difficulty expressing them.
They react adversely to stress, often becoming unable to cope adequately with such stress. Usually experiencing an especially damaging event about 2 years before the onset of detectable cancer. The patient is unable to cope with this traumatic event or series of events, which comes as a "last straw" on top of years of suppressed reactions to stress.
They show an inability to resolve deep-seated emotional problems and conflicts, usually arising in childhood, often even being unaware of their presence.
So from the above list it’s very interesting - cancer seems to be a ‘nice person’ dis-ease. Sure pricks can get cancer too, but the above traits aren’t my opinion, these are the observations of many health professionals, from tens of thousands of patients over multiple decades. One of these experts is a doctor called Douglas Brodie MD who writes extensively about this – much of what I am going to talk about is on his website. Douglas has over the last 28 years consulted and counselled thousands of cancer patients and recognised the importance of working out these issues and inappropriate belief systems if the patient has any chance of successful healing.
Usually starting off in childhood the Ca type personality has held in his or her hostility and other damaging emotions. Very often this has its origins in feelings of rejection by one or both of the parents. Now this may not be true, it is the perception of rejection that matters – remember, your perception creates the reality you experience, it doesn’t matter how accurate it is or not. This ultimately results in a lack of closeness with the “rejecting” parent or parents. This early belief system goes on to negatively affect the individual’s life and relationships and commonly holds back deep connections and closeness with spouses or other close friends/family members that would normally develop – they find it hard to connect to people. Because of this perceived deprivation of affection and acceptance in early life, the Ca type personality tend to develop feelings of loneliness and being misunderstood. These people have a tremendous need for approval and acceptance (what they perceive they didn’t receive) developing a very high sensitivity to the needs of others while supressing their own emotional needs.
The Ca type personalities are the “caretakers” of the world. They show a lot of compassion and caring for others, going out of the way to look after the needs of others – funnily enough they can tend to be attracted to occupations that support this belief system too. They take the role of caretakers very seriously and reluctantly accept help from others, doing it on their own. Throughout their childhood they have typically been taught “not to be selfish”, and they take this to heart, developing a deep seated belief system about this and making this a major life time objective to fulfil. Typically the Ca type personality derives his or her entire worth, value and identity from their role as the “caretaker”.
The Ca type personality does not like to burden others and tends to “suffer in silence”, they suck it up without complaint. These people are ‘worriers’. Their own burdens and that of others weigh very heavily on them on a conscious and subconscious level because over their lifetime they have suppressed and internalised their problems, cares and conflicts – they find it very difficult to express themselves and their emotions, feeling misunderstood whilst not wanting to burden others – this again leads to tremendous amounts of physiological stress.
I know personally I used to tick pretty much every box and am sure it played a major part in my diagnosis. So what do we do about it? Reading though the list it’s clear that pretty much every point raised is an issue with an inappropriate belief system that’s been picked up along the journey of life. Some of them the person would have created and some of them they would have inherited. These inappropriate belief systems have led to lop sided perceptions of the world that the person lives in and ultimately leads to a huge amount of stress on a mental, emotional, spiritual and physiological level – and we’ve already explored what the stress of inappropriate belief systems can do on a cellular level… So to lift these stressors and unlock the healing potential of the body, it’s imperative that we address and balance out each of these belief systems, whilst encouraging personal development to build self-esteem, confidence, learning how to say no, decrease the stress response in the body, mend relationships, develop a voice and learn how to communicate our emotions, thoughts and feelings in a constructive manner. Easy huh…….. Now any single modality approach to cancer care such as chemo, radiation, hyperthermia, herbal medicine, nutritional medicine, fasting and all the other potential ways to approach treatment will not be successful without combining modalities and addressing the underlying “stories” of the individual. Adopting lifestyle changes such as learning meditation to decrease stress and to help you to deal with it better, taking up a long lost passion, taking a public speaking course, journaling, joining a sporting team or….. creating a Facebook page where you can talk it out….. all these things are beneficial in the healing process whilst addressing the underlying beliefs and supporting the bodys healing capacity. Does an oncologist ever ask you about your ability to communicate your deepest emotions, how your relationship with your parents when you were a child was and what your passions in life are? I think not.
There is an absolute difference between curing a dis-ease and healing a dis-ease. Curative treatment aims all cannons at the symptom/s of the dis-ease – in this case, the tumour/s. This has been the approach to my own cancer – chemo, get rid of the tumours and woohoo you’re cured… sorry.. didn’t work, why? I believe because I didn’t get deep enough to the core issues so life threw another chance at me – it wants me to get it that much. Healing on the other hand involves the growth of the individual with and through the dis-ease, supporting the innate healing capacity of the body and addressing underlying issues such as discussed above, evolving out the other end an enhanced version of yourself on all levels – a cure may be the side effect of this... I think it’s important to also realize that healing doesn’t necessarily involve curing. People can still die of the condition but be healed from it…
The key I believe is to work through each of these beliefs, understand and recognise where they developed from and neutralize the effect on your psyche and all areas of health by balancing and developing gratitude for each one. Now this isn’t an overnight challenge, this will take a bit of time and be tough to work through, but I believe it is absolutely integral to healing. How do we do this? What I’m doing is identifying the best I can the underlying issues/stories/beliefs, then I write down as many drawbacks/negatives as possible to the issue in all areas of my life – physical, mental, emotional, social, spiritual, environmental, and financial – workshop it. I don’t stop until I have at least 100 drawbacks. Then I flip it up, I now list the benefits of the issue to me in all areas of my life – I need to come up with just as many benefits as I did drawbacks. The next step is to go through each of the drawbacks and list an actual time in your life when this issue or event happened – be specific. If you are doing the exercise on a person, then for this step list where you have demonstrated this negative trait in your life – again be specific. The final step is to look at the drawbacks and where you've displayed the drawbacks/negatives and list how that has been a benefit to you and your life journey.
Sounds convoluted doesn't it. It’s meant to be. When done properly with your heart and soul, you will get lightbulb moments and develop a sense of gratitude for the issue/event/person and it will balance out the emotional charge to the belief system. Once this is done you can replace the old belief system with a new, more constructive beneficial one that serves you better. When you get to this point it’s a good idea to solidify it with a statement of some sort. This is what I say internally when I hit this point – you may want to write it down, that might be more powerful for you – “I release this inappropriate belief system into the ether and deliver it to God/universe/source/Yoda to be transformed into pure love and gracious energy. I accept this pure love and gracious energy back into my spirit to form new, more appropriate, beneficial belief systems that serve me, my family and wider community for the greater good. And so it is”. You can say whatever you want really, this just come out one day so I stuck with it – I was fully channelling my hippy/new age groove that day and no I wasn’t wearing Thai fisherman pants... When I get to this point I like to meditate on it and give thanks. Like I said, this takes effort doing this stuff, but there’s gold at the end of it, trust me. Don’t try to do it in one go, do it bit by bit, night by night if you have to. I personally think its better that way, you can sit on it… the turtle will win the race.
Now this post has been mainly on cancer but I actually think it applies to pretty much all chronic diseases. I see time and time again people with similar life stories that aren’t manifesting cancer, but dis-eases such as fibromyalgia, auto-immune conditions, depression, anxiety, addiction and other chronic complaints, even people battling with weight issues. The traits the person has may not be all the ones listed here, but I bet there will be some and a few more not listed. Our beliefs really do control our biology. As Caroline Myss puts it – our biography determines our biology.
We live in an over-the-counter world where we want the quick fix for our ills. With chronic disease there isn’t one – you need to do the hard yards to get the result – th
at’s why it’s here – there’s some valuable lessons in it… if you want them. This is why so many people with chronic disease, go from doctor to doctor, specialist to specialist, naturopath to naturopath searching for the “cure”. Search all you want but you won’t find one, but…. look down about 4-5 inches at your chest and there’s your answer – look into your heart, that’s where the cure is, and for a lot of people that can be a tough cookie to crack – it may have a bit of amour around it. Most chronic diseases takes years if not decades to manifest in the body. So don’t expect to fix it in a week, a bottle of herbs or a prescription medication. The fully integrated truly ‘whole-istic’ unfolding I believe, is the way to approach your health. This is the happiest I’ve ever been and it’s not from anything that anyone has done to me, it’s what I’ve done for me – I’ve still got a way to go, but at least I’m headed in the right direction. One last point to ponder… Of all the issues, circumstances, stresses, illness and suffering in your life there’s been one common thing to them all – YOU! You are the key. Go on give it a go. You deserve it… xx
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